koshish jaari hai !

  It was a bright day when i entered the studio of a news channel . There was still time left for the live discussion . We were waiting in guest room , the coordinator introduced me with the feminist who was a part of the discussion . All these feminists have this same arrogant look on their face. This woman was a part of a very reputed national political party which always talk about "Indian culture ".          I could notice that this woman was wearing  expensive designer clothes and was continuously talking about her love for such clothes. Iam a kind of person who doesn't think much about clothes and she was a typical woman who was brand conscious . Her clothes , make up , hair ,shoes were all perfect . She told me she has a hair dresser . I noticed her manicured hands when she was speaking with gestures with the use of her hands . Then i noticed mine who were dry because of washing clothes before coming to the studio.   In conversation i to...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RpLOireVg4I      Look at this advertisement and see the tagline "such a boy thing " , "boys ki life maestro ki life easy ". Do they ever think before making such nonsense ? No they don't because this is what is spread everywhere . Boy's life easy , girl's life hard . When they show a woman driving driving scooty the tagline is " why should boys have all the fun" http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H_R5D4cPmC0  . What does it mean that men are having fun all the time and women have a hard time . Lets look at what an average man and woman do in India , how they grow up ?               A boy when he is in growing age is burdened with responsibilities . He has no other choice but to earn because there is a family who is dependent on him . On the other hand, a girl has a choice either to live as working woman or as homemaker in later on life . If she is a working woman...

                                                http://www.deccanchronicle.com/131003/lifestyle- relationship/article/every-9-minutes-married-man-commits-suicide-india http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cT6n9D0PZY A country got independence , people were very happy . They were showing happiness in various ways .This man John was walking on road happily shaking his hands in air . Many people saw John walking like this , many got hurt by his hands . But nobody said anything as there was celebration going on . After few minutes a man who got hurt on his nose by John's hand caught John . John  looked surprisingly at this man and asked ," what is it , why are you holding my hand ."         ...

                                          " अंधकार को क्यों धिक्कारें नन्हा सा इक दीप जलाएं  " Yes I know people are depressed because one more anti male law is passed . One question arises in my mind didn't we know that it will pass ? Why we had so many expectations from our so called law makers ? We all know how biased they are towards women and how the laws are passed in India .                                   But in all these chaos there are some very positive things happening around us , amazed, have a look with me . We all know that "Monsoon session " of parliament was crucial to us . So , like every se...

मैं जानती हूँ और मौतों की तरह  लोग यह मौत भी  भूल जायेंगे। भूल जायेंगे कि तुम कितने मजबूर थे की तुमको आत्महत्या करनी पड़ी. काफी बहाने ढूंढें जायेंगे तुम्हारी मौत के भी , तुम अवसाद में थे , तुम कायर थे लड़ नहीं सके।  मगर हम सब जानते हैं कितना मुश्किल है, तब लड़ना जब पूरा सिस्टम आपने खिलाफ हो।   कोई आपकी बात न सुने , कोई आपको न समझे , कुछ कुतर्क देकर आपको नकार दिया जाये। सब इस सिस्टम का सामना कर सके यह ज़रूरी तो नहीं। कुछ अतिसंवेदनशील भी होते हैं उनके लिए छोटी सी बात भी  बड़ा सबब बन जाती है, फिर उसपर कुछ भी तर्क आप दे लें बेकार है.                                                                   जब हम  मिथ्या आरोपों का सामना करते हैं तो हमारे सामने कई "क्यों " खड़े जाते हैं जिनका जवाब हमारे पास नहीं होता। और इस क्यों से एक लम्बा युद्ध शुरू होता है. हम सचिन की मजबूरी का अंद...

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/jaipur/Women-named-in-dowry-harassment-jump-before-train/articleshow/20950626.cms http://epaper.jagran.com/ePaperArticle/08-jul-2013-edition-LUCKNOW-page_11-82471-4809-11.html मैं इंतज़ार करती रही की इन दो खबरों पर किसी महिला संघठन  की कोई प्रतिक्रिया आएगी। कोई महिला संघठन इनके लिए भी न्याय मांगेगा , किसी को तो इनके लिए मोमबत्ती जलाने की याद आयेगी । लेकिन  हुआ नहीं क्योंकि महिला संगठनों की नज़र में यह महिला हैं ही नहीं। उनके लिए महिला वो हैं, जिन्होंने इनकी मृत्यु में योगदान दिया , इनको मर जाने पे मजबूर किया।                 दोनों समाचारों में एक चीज़ है जो समान है वो है , महिलाओं की मृत्यु वो भी आत्महत्या। ऐसी आत्महत्या पर आमतौर पर महिला संघठन बहुत हाय तौबा मचाते हैं। जहाँ बात आत्महत्या के लिए उकसाने की हो तब तो मामला इतना उछाला जाता है कि पूरा देश एकमत हो जाता है। यहाँ क्या हो गया, महिला भी है आत्महत्या भी है फिर इतना सन्नाटा क्यों है ? किन महिलाओं की  रक्षा के लिए ब...

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/nagpur/Cops-son-ends-life-over-alleged-sexual-harassment-by-woman/articleshow/20547687.cms http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/gurgaon/Gang-rape-victim-retracts-statement/articleshow/20499926.cms http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Rape-accused-freed-girl-faces-perjury/articleshow/20402260.cms  All these news items are very disturbing where women are falsely accusing men for rape . Rape which is considered a heinous crime and women are lying for it . Laws against these crimes were made to stop this crime but where is the crime ? There are some falsely accused men and their dignity http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-03-11/india/37622494_1_diagnostic-centre-mayapuri-jail-term  or do we think that man does not have a dignity ?  When a man is falsely accused there are others in the family too ,whose dignity is at stake . So what exactly went wrong with the empowerment of women ? Why all empowere...